I recently attended a funeral. But unlike most, this funeral wasn’t a somber event. In fact, it was more like a tribute since the deceased lived a long and fulfilled life, and it felt like a celebration of the person. As these things tend to do, it got me thinking about my own life. Two specific questions came to mind:
- If I passed away today, what would be the highlights of my eulogy?
- How would they differ from what I’d want them to be?
Are You Winning At Life?
If you believe the answers to these questions are already one and the same… well you’re winning at life, keep it up. For the rest of us, let’s try to live our lives so they become the same or as close to as possible.
Related: How do you Define Winning?
My Life Goals
I’m not going to opine on what I think would be said about me today. But I will share my thoughts on what I want to be included in that eventual speech. Maybe somebody will read this at my funeral (hopefully many decades from now). If so – you’re welcome for the time I saved you.
He added value to the lives of those around him.
By writing my own eulogy perhaps?
He was a loyal, loving husband as demonstrated by doing everything possible to improve the life of his wife and maximize their happiness together.
I do take out the garbage once in awhile after all.
He taught his children solid values: to be good people, strong and self sufficient. They’ve learned the joy of adding value to their community and to the lives of others.
If you can’t do, teach? I kid, I kid. I love teachers!
He was a good friend as many of his friendships lasted for decades. He was always open to have a conversation, take part in a fun activity or have an adventure.
It’s OK that some of those adventures include falling down mountains on skis, a bike or during a treacherous hike. Or the times we knocked each other out of poker tournaments.
He lived life fully, chased his dreams and had many adventures.
Let’s be more specific here to include starting and running a successful business, skiing steep lines in Alaska and having many experiences where I enjoy the beauty of nature.
He was always willing to do a favor or provide advice for those around him.
As long as they don’t want advice about money. I hate giving advice about money! 😉
He used logic and reason to solve his own problems and those of others.
I really like logic and reason. Flying by the seat of my pants is not really my thing – except that one time that I started a personal finance blog and just assumed people would find it on their own and subscribe. Speaking of which, if you have not already signed up, you can subscribe here:
Once in a rare while, he threw away all logic and reason, made an emotional decision and took a chance.
I feel you need to get out of your comfort zone sometimes. Who really wants to look back on their life and see that it was risk free and boring?
He taught what he learned and in doing so, enriched the lives of others.
Teaching others what I know may be my best chance to make an impact.
He left the world a better place.
Because it’s way better than being the one who destroyed the planet.
Why Are We Talking About Death?
I know this post is a bit off in left field for a financial blog. Please forgive me for that. I happen to think this theme ties to personal finances, though.
You Need Life Goals to Have Financial Goals
With the new year approaching, I’ve been thinking about my 2018 financial goals. I’ll share these in my first post of 2018.
When I drafted that post, I realized that my financial goals were only a small piece of the larger puzzle. Money is really just a tool to use toward achieving the more important list above. I feel like those goals were out of context until I shared this list.
What Does This Have to do With Financial Independence?
Money alone can’t buy happiness. It can be used to free up your time to focus on what’s really important to you. I’m chasing financial independence (FI) to take back control of my time and set myself up to focus on my life goals.
I’ll to continue working to both stay sharp and enrich the lives of others. While doing so, I’ll use my freedom to set my own schedule. I’ll be OK choosing leisure and family time over certain financial opportunities. (Somebody please hold me to this when I get there).
In addition to fulfilling work, I will maximize the quantity and quality of time I get to spend with my family. I’ll go on grand adventures. I will always add new items to the bucket list and then go out and do them.
I look at this list as my life’s “business plan,” and my 2018 goals will be one step toward getting there.
What About You?
So what do you want said at your funeral? What are you doing today to make sure it’s written?